This is the story of one of the army men’s wives who left her alone to serve the country, she is the voice of those thousands of wives of an army man, who sails in the same boat. “She knew she loved him when ‘home’ went from being a place to a person.” here is a story to warm and lighten your heart. This army officer’s wife talks about how she waits for days only to get a call from him informing her he’s okay and being a part of their daughter’s life despite being away for months. This jawan’s wife tells you what it really means to be one. It is rare to find love such as theirs.
She is a lawyer by profession. She had to make a tough decision of settling in Mumbai to pursue her career. She says there were times when their only source of communication were letters.
“We first met when I was studying law at Symbiosis and he was a cadet in the Academy. It all started out in a funny manner — My friend and I would take an 11 Rupee bus ride every weekend to the NDA only because the food was much cheaper in their canteen! That’s how we became friends but pretty soon he moved to the IMA to Dehradun and as an officer, he was posted all over India. Believe it or not, the only way we kept in touch through the whole time was through letters. It was 2002 and cell phones had just come in, so we would write to each other about our days; about our lives. They were all innocent letters, but they were amazing because it gave me an insight into how simple he is as a person.
6 years went by like this, and finally, after that, he sent me an SMS saying – ‘I really feel for you and I would like to be with you’— and at that point, it all just fit. There was no over the top proposal or exorbitant gesture…but there was love and stability.
After marriage, I moved with him to Bhatinda, where I was working as a lawyer from home. Those two and a half years that we together were so special, but being a professional I knew that I couldn’t move around every 2 years with him and some of the places he was posted the only job available to me was that of a teacher, and that’s not what I became a lawyer for.
Together, we took the decision that I would move to Bombay to pursue my career and he would continue his postings. It’s tough, it’s really tough but it puts so many other things in perspective. For one – our long letters have become long WhatsApp conversations!
We see each other maybe once in every 4 months, but those 15 days of seeing and being with him mean everything to me; to us — we have a 3-year-old daughter. I feel like there are no words to speak of an army man’s passion towards his country. Here we complain about the bonus and leave dates, but in the army, you’re at the same rank, with the same pay for a decade before moving up. He’s currently in aviation, but there are days when I wake up with anxiety and ask him not to fly. There are days when I miss him so much and my daughter will console me and tell me it’s for our country. He’s such a good father that even though he’s so far away, he’s involved with her school work — he often makes her recite what she learned in class on the phone.
That’s the thing, we only celebrate our Jawans once they’ve lost their lives, but we need to celebrate them every day. My husband has lost so many of his batchmates to war or technical failures. There are days where there’s no communication between us because he’s in an area where there’s no network and finally after days he’ll call us up to tell us he’s okay. It’s so difficult for us, and even though this is his profession, I don’t think there’s been a day where he’s complained — every day he wakes up with a smile on his face because he’s serving his country.
SOURCE: HUMANS OF BOMBAY